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Help, My Child Doesn’t Want to Eat What I Make! | Dana Snook

Help, My Child Doesn’t Want to Eat What I Make!

  February 7, 2018

Eliminating pressure around meal and snack times, will help your children to become more attuned to listening to their bodies and eating for hunger and stopping when they are full. As parents, this is difficult to follow through with at times because we want what is best for our children. We want them grow up to be healthy and happy. However, what most parents don’t realize is the more pressure we put on our children to eat, the less well they will actually do in the long run.

You might be thinking, but if I don’t pressure them to eat, they won’t eat their vegetables anymore. Or, you might feel like all they will survive on is snacks or sweet type foods. You might even feel sometimes your children are surviving on air and not eating much at all. It can be very scary for a parent who only wants the best for their children.

Here is what I’ve learned both through the work I do as a nutrition therapist and a mom. Children’s eating is erratic and that is normal. Yes, one day they will eat lots of food and other day they will only eat a small amount. However, what I know is if we can’t give up some of the control and give them some autonomy around their eating it will interfere with them developing a good relationship with food as they get older.

How we feed our children and what they eat is not really about today, tomorrow, or even next year, it really looks at how will they eat for the rest of their life. And what I know is if are pressuring them it won’t result in long standing changes – only temporary changes!

I’ll set the stage. You spend the time cooking, getting the meal on the table and your children won’t eat it. They either complain they don’t want it or insult your cooking by saying “Yuck” or “Gross.” You feel defeated and ask yourself “Why do I even bother, it would be easier to just serve the food them what they want and forget about it.”

I get it – just last night I spent time getting dinner prepped and on the table. My daughter took a few bites of each thing and told me she didn’t like any of them. Defeated is an understatement. When I stepped back to check in with my own feelings around the situation I was able to realize it really had little to do with me, but rather, she wasn’t feeling well.  It made perfect sense, of course it doesn’t taste good to her – her taste buds are really not great right now from being sick. So while it’s easy to feel insulted as a parent when our children don’t eat a meal well look at the bigger picture. It’s our job as the parents to get the meal on the table and it’s their job to eat it.

Things will go much different if you try to interfere with their eating. Pressure comes in all forms when you are feeding children.

Have you said any of things?

Just take two more bites..

You can’t get up from the table until you eat more of …

You can’t have more of …. until you eat a few bites of …

You need to finish everything on your plate…

I think you have had enough of …. eat more ….

No, you can’t have anymore ….

You can only have …. of those

You don’t even have to say anything for your child to feel pressure either, it could be in what you are doing too.

Are you doing any of these things?

Making special meals for your children?

Plating the food on their plate for them without asking what they want?

Touching their plate while they are eating or moving around food on their plate?

While as parents, we always have good intentions children will do less well with eating when they feel pressure around eating.

Instead, try pressure free meals and snacks with children. Believe me it’s no easy task to stop pressuring your children if you have been doing it for a long time, but it will be well worth it so your children will learn to grow up as life long good eaters.

Here are some ways you can start out by having less pressure around meals and snacks.

  1. Serve one meal the whole family can eat
  2. Serve all the food on the table family style
  3. Allow your children to pick and choose from what is served and decide what and how much goes on their plate
  4. Sit back and enjoy your own meal and let them enjoy theirs
  5. Make pleasant conversation – you want the family meal to be a place everyone wants to come to
If you are struggling around pleasant conversations, here are some great resources to get your started.
  1. 48 Printable Dinner Conversations Cards from Amy Locust at Living Lucurto
  2. Family Dinner: 50 Conversations for Young Children from Natasha Daniels at AT Parenting Survival for All Ages

When we are anxious about family meals our children can pick up on anxiousness and often they feel anxious also. This leads to doing less well at meals and can effect them growing and eating well.

Give it a try, what is one way you can have less pressure at your next family meal?

One More thing…

Check out my You Tube Video on this very topic!

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